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venerdì 30 marzo 2012
Kids corner
Un'amica mi ha chiesto alcune idee per rinnovare lo spazio dei bambini...
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martedì 27 marzo 2012
Friendly Fighting
http://www.10kids.com/
Ten rules for friendly fighting: or how to ensure that conflicts will strengthen your marriage instead of harm it.
1. Embrace conflict. There is no need to fear it. Conflict is normal, even healthy. Differences between you mean that there are things you can learn from each other.
2. Go after the issue, not each other. Friendly fighting sticks with the issue. Neither party resorts to name calling or character assassination. It’s enough to deal with the problem without adding the new problem of hurting each other’s feelings.
3. Listen respectfully. When people feel strongly about something, it’s only fair to hear them out. Respectful listening means acknowledging their feelings, either verbally or through focused attention. It means never telling someone that he or she “shouldn’t” feel that way. It means saving your point of view until after you’ve let the other person know you understand that they feel intensely about the subject, even if you don’t quite get it.
4. Talk softly. The louder someone yells, the less likely they are to be heard. Even if your partner yells, there’s no need to yell back. Taking the volume down makes it possible for people to start focusing on the issues instead of reacting to the noise.
5. Get curious, not defensive. Instead of upping the ante, ask for more information, details, and examples. There is usually some basis for the other person’s complaint. When you meet a complaint with curiosity, you make room for understanding.
6. Ask for specifics. Global statements that include the words “always” and “never” almost always get you nowhere and never are true. When your partner has complaints, ask to move from global comments of exasperation to specific examples so you can understand exactly what he or she is talking about. When you have complaints, do your best to give your partner examples to work with.
7. Find points of agreement. Finding common ground, even if it’s agreeing that there is a problem, is an important start to finding a common solution.
8. Look for options. Fighting ends when cooperation begins. Asking politely for suggestions or alternatives invites collaboration. Careful consideration of options shows respect. Offering alternatives of your own shows that you also are willing to try something new.
9. Make concessions. Small concessions can turn the situation around. If you give a little, it makes room for the other person to make concessions too. Small concessions lead to larger compromises. Compromise doesn’t have to mean that you’re meeting each other exactly 50-50. Sometimes it’s a 60-40 or even 80-20 agreement. This isn’t about scorekeeping. It’s about finding a solution that is workable for both of you.
10. Make peace. An elderly friend who has been married for 68 years tells me that she and her husband made a rule on their wedding day never to go to bed angry. They agreed from the outset that the relationship is more important than winning arguments. Sometimes this meant they stayed up very, very late until they came to a workable compromise. Sometimes it meant that one or the other of them decided the issue wasn’t really important enough to lose sleep over. Since they both value the marriage, neither one gave in or gave up most of the time. When one did give in or give up, the other showed appreciation and made a peace offering of his or her own.
Ten rules for friendly fighting: or how to ensure that conflicts will strengthen your marriage instead of harm it.
1. Embrace conflict. There is no need to fear it. Conflict is normal, even healthy. Differences between you mean that there are things you can learn from each other.
2. Go after the issue, not each other. Friendly fighting sticks with the issue. Neither party resorts to name calling or character assassination. It’s enough to deal with the problem without adding the new problem of hurting each other’s feelings.
3. Listen respectfully. When people feel strongly about something, it’s only fair to hear them out. Respectful listening means acknowledging their feelings, either verbally or through focused attention. It means never telling someone that he or she “shouldn’t” feel that way. It means saving your point of view until after you’ve let the other person know you understand that they feel intensely about the subject, even if you don’t quite get it.
4. Talk softly. The louder someone yells, the less likely they are to be heard. Even if your partner yells, there’s no need to yell back. Taking the volume down makes it possible for people to start focusing on the issues instead of reacting to the noise.
5. Get curious, not defensive. Instead of upping the ante, ask for more information, details, and examples. There is usually some basis for the other person’s complaint. When you meet a complaint with curiosity, you make room for understanding.
6. Ask for specifics. Global statements that include the words “always” and “never” almost always get you nowhere and never are true. When your partner has complaints, ask to move from global comments of exasperation to specific examples so you can understand exactly what he or she is talking about. When you have complaints, do your best to give your partner examples to work with.
7. Find points of agreement. Finding common ground, even if it’s agreeing that there is a problem, is an important start to finding a common solution.
8. Look for options. Fighting ends when cooperation begins. Asking politely for suggestions or alternatives invites collaboration. Careful consideration of options shows respect. Offering alternatives of your own shows that you also are willing to try something new.
9. Make concessions. Small concessions can turn the situation around. If you give a little, it makes room for the other person to make concessions too. Small concessions lead to larger compromises. Compromise doesn’t have to mean that you’re meeting each other exactly 50-50. Sometimes it’s a 60-40 or even 80-20 agreement. This isn’t about scorekeeping. It’s about finding a solution that is workable for both of you.
10. Make peace. An elderly friend who has been married for 68 years tells me that she and her husband made a rule on their wedding day never to go to bed angry. They agreed from the outset that the relationship is more important than winning arguments. Sometimes this meant they stayed up very, very late until they came to a workable compromise. Sometimes it meant that one or the other of them decided the issue wasn’t really important enough to lose sleep over. Since they both value the marriage, neither one gave in or gave up most of the time. When one did give in or give up, the other showed appreciation and made a peace offering of his or her own.
venerdì 23 marzo 2012
DIY kids Projects
La primavera e una brutta infezione alla gola di Benedetta mi hanno portato a trascorrere un po' di tempo con lei al tavolo e condividere uno dei suoi interressi: arts and crafts. Cosi' abbiamo preparato i biglietti di auguri (fatti da noi!) per Pasqua e una ghirlanda con colori pastello!
I maschi hanno gustato i nuovi frutti di stagione dopo una partita di pallone in giardino: mirtilli e lamponi in compagnia!
I maschi hanno gustato i nuovi frutti di stagione dopo una partita di pallone in giardino: mirtilli e lamponi in compagnia!
mercoledì 21 marzo 2012
Ben arrivata primavera!
Ancora con i bambini in vacanza, causa march break, mi godo il primo sole caldo, i bambini che corrono in giardino, il ricambio dell'armadio, le giornate piu' lunghe e i nuovi colori della primavera!
lunedì 19 marzo 2012
Auguri papa'!
"Bambini, proviamo a scrivere un biglietto per papa'. Ognuno pensa per cosa ringrazia papa' e lo scriviamo insieme. Stasera quando torna a casa glielo diamo con la torta!"
"Papa' grazie perche' sei il migliore papa'. Perche' sei forte." dice Carlo disegnando lui e papa' mentre giocano a calcio in giardino.
"Papa' grazie perche' tu sai tutto e non hai paura dei mostri." urla Gabriele mentre mostra a tutti il suo disegno.
"Papa' grazie perche' sei the best daddy in the world! E mi insegni tante cose e ti prendi cura di me con la mamma." esclama Bendetta mentre e' al suo quinto disegno per papa'!
"Papa' grazie perche' mi hai insegnato ad andare in bici e mi porti sempre a George Park in bici anche quando sei stanco. Grazie perche' ti piace nuotare con me e aggiusti sempre tutto. Grazie perche' quando torni dal lavoro giochi sempre con me. Grazie perche' adesso che sono grande posso stare sveglio un po' di piu' la sera e giocare a scacchi con te." dice Edoardo mentre mi chiede perche' oggi non si festeggia anche la festa della mamma!
Grazie papa' per renderci ogni giorno piu' felici e orgogliosi di te!
"Papa' grazie perche' sei il migliore papa'. Perche' sei forte." dice Carlo disegnando lui e papa' mentre giocano a calcio in giardino.
"Papa' grazie perche' tu sai tutto e non hai paura dei mostri." urla Gabriele mentre mostra a tutti il suo disegno.
"Papa' grazie perche' sei the best daddy in the world! E mi insegni tante cose e ti prendi cura di me con la mamma." esclama Bendetta mentre e' al suo quinto disegno per papa'!
"Papa' grazie perche' mi hai insegnato ad andare in bici e mi porti sempre a George Park in bici anche quando sei stanco. Grazie perche' ti piace nuotare con me e aggiusti sempre tutto. Grazie perche' quando torni dal lavoro giochi sempre con me. Grazie perche' adesso che sono grande posso stare sveglio un po' di piu' la sera e giocare a scacchi con te." dice Edoardo mentre mi chiede perche' oggi non si festeggia anche la festa della mamma!
Grazie papa' per renderci ogni giorno piu' felici e orgogliosi di te!
venerdì 16 marzo 2012
Di cuore e dettagli
In cinese prestare attenzione si dice "fare il cuore piccolo", dove piccolo vuol dire capace di fare spazio alle dimensioni piu' sottili della realta'. Un cuore piccolo aiuta a gioire ogni giorno del quotidianissimo spettacolo che la vita offre. E a volte ci perdiamo questo spettacolo perche' il cuore e' un po' obeso...
Vi auguro un fine settimana pieno di dettagli e delle sfumature piu' belle della primavera!
piesse: noi ci prepariamo al primo picinc della stagione in compagnia di amici...
Vi auguro un fine settimana pieno di dettagli e delle sfumature piu' belle della primavera!
piesse: noi ci prepariamo al primo picinc della stagione in compagnia di amici...
lunedì 12 marzo 2012
Spring mood
Oggi abbiamo riaperto il giardino. Primo giorno di march break (scuola chiusa per due settimane). Mona e i suoi bambini ci hanno fatto visita con un mazzo di fiori e un cestino di lamponi. Stivali di gomma e pronti alla ricerca di bugs. Primo sole tiepido. Biscotti fatti in casa. Una bella chiacchierata sedute all'aperto.
Spring is coming soon...e io non vedo l'ora!
Spring is coming soon...e io non vedo l'ora!
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giovedì 8 marzo 2012
mercoledì 7 marzo 2012
Wednesday quote!
L'amore matrimoniale ha bisogno di tempo. Lo stare insieme produce l'affetto. ... La qualità del tempo che si passa in famiglia si appoggia su una quantità che deve essere sufficiente. Ognuno deve dividere il tempo reale di cui dispone, senza miraggi e false illusioni, e a partire da qui costruire una vita familiare che sia il più intensa possibile. (U. Borghello)
martedì 6 marzo 2012
lunedì 5 marzo 2012
Buongiorno lunedi'!
A volte c'e la stanchezza e la sofferenza in un sorriso. Non si vorrebbe sorridere. Ma se si riesce, il sorriso vale ancora di piu': e' un superamento che rende felici gli altri . E se non riesce, basta riprovarci.
Buon Lunedi' e buona settimana!
Buon Lunedi' e buona settimana!
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